Western culture has
reached a level of material wealth greater than at any time in history.
We include in this material wealth, wealth of information as well. Currently,
at the pinnacle of our ability to manipulate our environment and produce
all the things we need, and many that we don't, it's entirely possibly
that many of our ills are arising as a result of our inability to handle
this incredible glut of input, in all of its forms.
Prior to the
recent age, when resources and information were scarce and hard to come
by, we would never think of turning either of these away. The arrival
of this incredible abundance is relatively recent, in the past 50 years
or so, with the refinement of industry and the emergence of the information
age and the Internet. It has come upon us so quickly that many of us haven't
learned or prepared ourselves to handle this new level of abundance. If
indeed it is possible to adapt and prepare ourselves for the onslaught
at all.
Have you every asked yourself the question, "How much is enough?"
Or, "What do I value over everything else?" Few people have.
And not knowing the answers to these questions, we seldom say "no"
to things and information that meet our fancy. And, in some ways, we crave
each new thing with the hope that it will somehow set us free. Consequently,
we are literally dying from over consumption in one form or another.
Well over half of
the U.S. population is now considered "obese," while people
are starving for renewal of "spirit" and "soul" in
their lives and work. People are busier, have less time, and are feeling
overwhelmed, as they are surrounded by "too much stuff" and
stressed out under the growing burden of "too much information."
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How do we cope with the temptation to consume ourselves into oblivion?
Our proposal is simple. We suggest two things. First, that you begin replacing
the habit of "accumulating" with the practice of "assimilating."
And second, that you make sure what you ingest in any form is of the highest
quality possible. Let's first visit some definitions:
Accumulate: To heap up in a mass; to pile up; to increase; to collect
or bring together; to amass; as, to accumulate a sum of money.
Assimilate: To appropriate and transform or incorporate into the
substance of the assimilating body; to absorb or appropriate, as nourishment;
as food is assimilated and converted into organic tissue.
Proper assimilation and digestion of food, experience, and information
will allow us to extract its full benefit and put it to good use. Whereas
overstuffing ourselves, in any of these arenas will cause a buildup of
unsightly fat, waste, stress, toxicity, confusion, unease, often fueling
an unconscious compulsion for more. All of us know how much better we
feel when we push ourselves away from the table before we're full, and
the satisfied feeling we get when we give ourselves a little time for
our systems to "assimilate" what we've taken in.
Unconscious compulsions for "more input" seldom satisfy our
true needs. Nor will having piles of unread books and magazines on our
desks reduce the nagging sense that there is some piece of information
that will really change everything for us.
Satisfaction comes from fully digesting and extracting the fine nutrients
from what we already have, and making choices for new input based on our
true values and passions, not our casual likes and vague interests.
Saying yes to only what most serves our needs and resonates with our deepest
sense of self, and our chosen mission will go a long way to lessen the
burden. So will focusing on what is important to ours and not someone
else's sense of self.
How to Facilitate Assimilation
- Of Information.
We spend a great deal of time looking for that special piece of information
or that magical answer to our current problem when more often than not,
the answer we seek is right in front of us. But
unless we slow down to see, hear, and process what's already in our
world, we may miss these gifts. In your groups, model this by inviting
your participants to assimilate fully the meaning and consequences of
every activity.
As a facilitator,
observe closely and resist the desire to pile on just "one more"
experience to make sure your groups get their money's worth. Make sure
that the desired outcomes of each activity and experience are evident
to you and the participants before moving on. And, if you dare, stop
before you are faced with a sea of bobbing heads with glazed eyes trying
to take that one more step together.If they seem to need additional
information, help them clarify their specific requirements adding just
enough to be complete.
- Of Relationships.
We rush around so often focused on "getting stuff done" that
we sometimes neglect our most precious resources--our friends, associates,
coworkers, and family. The benefits in good will, emotional support,
new connections and ideas, very often offset the time spent cultivating
and maintaining these existing relationships.
- Of Customers.
Balance your expenditure of energy on seeking new customers with efforts
to deepen and enrich your relationships with existing customers. It
takes a whole lot less effort to cultivate these existing relationships
where some trust already exists. Share your gratitude for them being
in your life, appreciate their trust in you, and seek to deeply understand
and respond to their needs. Become so familiar with their situation
that you can act as a trusted advisor and in turn help them assimilate
the tidal wave of information bearing down on them as well.
- Of Ideas.
If you're anything like me, you're a life long student of personal growth
and have hundreds of books on your bookshelves. Just imagine what might
happen if instead of picking up yet another new title to read, you were
to study the principles from just one chapter of a favorite you've already
read and actually apply them for the next 30 days? This, my friends,
is called assimilation.
Create a learning plan with specific goals for the next six months.
Include both informational and learning goals into this plan. And, only
include that which you know you can assimilate with minimum effort so
that you have time to really make the information a part of your very
being instead of just being a walking index pointing people to this
book or that website.
- Of Food.
During at least one meal this week...you may even want to experiment
with the (big) ones coming up over the holidays, try eating slower than
usual. Chew your food just a little bit longer. When you're talking
or listening to someone, stop eating. Take time to really assimilate
your food and experience with family. Try just doing one thing at a
time. Enjoy the rainbow of flavors and textures, each bite a miniature
world of experience.
- Of Experience.
We're all tempted to accelerate our pace of life to match that of our
increasingly frenetic culture. But this is a personal choice. Most of
the time, we can choose to slow down and carefully select our inputs,
experiences, and the speed at which we subject ourselves to them.
There are ways to
help make this choice easier. Commit to a practice of "being fully
present" for a few minutes each day. Use whatever method appeals
to you. Some choices are meditation, yoga, quiet walks, prayer, tai chi,
marshal arts, sitting alone quietly, journaling, etc. Or just look out
the window with all of your senses. Focus on what is before you and allow
it to really enter your being.
These kinds of practices
are more and more important as the world accelerates around you. They
give our inner selves time catch up with, reconnect with, and properly
assimilate with our outer experience.
Now go forth and
assimilate!
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