Happiness is not a matter of good fortune or worldly possessions. It's a mental attitude. It comes from appreciating what we have, instead of being miserable about what we don't have. It's so simple—yet so hard for the human mind to comprehend. (Anonymous)
With all of the talk and material related to happiness and well-being, one would think it’s enough already. After all, how many people really get to feel happy for extended periods of time?
At the Annual Coaching Conference in Montreal, I attended a breakout session Manifesting the Invisible Dimension of Positive Mental Attitude. Witness It and Work With It! I chose it simply by default as nothing else appealed to me. Luckily, it was fascinating and has already impacted my life.
The premise states that each individual has their own energy field and our field varies depending upon our state of mind. At this point, I was highly skeptical! Christian Worth (www.less-stress-more-success.com) stated that focusing on a positive mental attitude increases our energy field while focusing on negative thought decreases it. By now I was rolling my eyes and wondering why I chose this session.
He stated that an optimistic attitude leads to satisfaction and conversely, a pessimistic one leads to dissatisfaction. Without too much detail, he used ‘dowsing rods’ (pictured below) which are straight wires with a handle and are held parallel to the floor.
Dowsing Rods
He physically demonstrated several times using different people how our energy fields vary. As soon as a person’s energy field is detected, the rods change direction and begin to part. After watching him walk towards five different people, I started to believe that ‘something’ was happening.
In the meantime, when I first sat down (approximately 200 people attended), I smiled and said ‘hello’ to the person seated to my right. She brusquely said ‘hi’ and turned away. Her body language of disconnect was strong. During the talk, she turned to me and abruptly said “You are chewing your gum loudly and I can’t hear.” I apologized profusely only to have her turn away again.
A short while later, we had to break into groups to discuss what we were observing on stage, and my right side neighbor immediately turned away from me to the person on her other side.
The next experiment on stage started to make me a believer. He had two people stand at opposite ends on the stage. He walked towards each of them to see where the rods changed to show us their energy fields respectively. He then whispered something to one of the women. The audience and the other woman had no idea what he said. He then walked towards the other woman and this time she had NO energy field – the rods never changed even when he reached her.
He then informed us that he whispered to the first woman to think awful thoughts about the other woman – that she was a bad person, that she shouldn’t be on the stage, that she was harmful, etc.
So, it seems as though the thoughts we are thinking can directly affect another person without our or their knowledge.
By the same token, he explained that it works in reverse. He then had the woman think very positive thoughts about the other woman. When he walked towards the other woman, her energy field was larger than it was initially (This was demonstrated by the rods parting at a further distance from where she was standing than they had initially when all was neutral).
Now I was on board but still somewhat skeptical. I decided to try it myself. I faced the woman next to me (who was still turned away with all of the body language possible) and wished her love, a beautiful day, all great things for her life (silently in my mind). Within 3 minutes, she turned to me and said “Isn’t this guy just great, and he’s so funny too.”
Still in shock to this day I realized that our mental energy CAN and WILL affect other people. How does this help us?
INVITATION TO EXPERIMENT
The next time someone irritates or annoys you – send them positive energy and watch what happens. When you see someone looking glum or sad, try it.
And in reverse, notice when you are with another person(s) and you feel your energy draining, and with awareness stop someone else’s energy from impacting yours.
If you feel inclined, please let me know if you decide to go ahead and try this experiment. I anxiously await hearing about your experiences. Your feedback and comments have been most welcomed:-) Keep them coming!!
Very best regards,
marion@lifecoachinggroup.com
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